You know, that line “Do not apologize for feeling things” hits differently when you really sit with it. It’s a simple but profound reminder that our emotions aren’t flaws to be fixed. They’re the very proof we’re engaged with life, not just passively watching it go by.
Share Image Quote:The core message is that emotional vulnerability isn’t a weakness; it’s the fundamental signature of a life being fully lived.
Look, I’ve worked with so many people over the years who see their feelings as a problem to be solved. Anger, sadness, even overwhelming joy—they immediately want to qualify it, explain it away, or say “sorry” for having it. But this quote flips that entire script on its head. It reframes our emotional landscape not as a messy inconvenience but as the dashboard of our humanity. When you feel things deeply, you’re in the game. You’re not numb. And that, frankly, is the whole point. The alternative is a kind of emotional anesthesia, and who wants that?
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| Original Language | English (3669) |
| Category | Emotion (177) |
| Topics | authenticity (101), expression (22), vulnerability (47) |
| Literary Style | direct (414) |
| Emotion / Mood | compassionate (35), honest (52), reassuring (55) |
| Overall Quote Score | 81 (258) |
This comes straight from Elizabeth Gilbert’s 2006 memoir, Eat, Pray, Love. It’s a key piece of wisdom she gathers on her journey. You’ll sometimes see it floating around the internet unattached, but its true home is in that book, born from that specific narrative of self-discovery.
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| Author | Elizabeth Gilbert (39) |
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| Source/Book Name | Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman's Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia (39) |
| Origin Timeperiod | 21st Century (1891) |
| Original Language | English (3669) |
| Authenticity | Verified (4032) |
Elizabeth Gilbert writes with clarity and heart about creativity, love, and self-discovery. After starting in magazines like GQ and The New York Times Magazine, she published Pilgrims, then broke out with Eat Pray Love, followed by Committed, The Signature of All Things, Big Magic, and City of Girls. Her 2009 TED Talk on creativity went viral and continues to inspire makers worldwide. She splits time between writing, speaking, and mentoring creative communities. For a full view of her work, see the .
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| Quotation | Do not apologize for feeling things. That’s how you know you’re alive |
| Book Details | Publication Year/Date: 2006; ISBN: 978-0-670-03471-0; Last edition: Penguin Books, 2010; Number of pages: 334. |
| Where is it? | Chapter 63, Indonesia section, Approximate page 229 from 2010 edition |
You have to remember, Gilbert wrote this after a devastating divorce and a period of deep depression. The entire book is about her quest to rediscover passion and purpose. This line isn’t just a nice thought; it’s a hard-won conclusion from someone who had to learn to stop apologizing for her own existence and start feeling her way back to life.
This is one of those tools you can pull out in so many situations. I use it all the time.
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| Theme | Advice (652) |
| Audiences | artists (108), coaches (1277), readers (72), students (3112), therapists (555) |
| Usage Context/Scenario | healing workshops (19), journaling exercises (7), mental health blogs (8), motivational writing (240), therapy discussions (37) |
Question: Does this mean I should just act on every feeling I have?
Answer: Great question, and no, not at all. The quote is about *feeling*, not necessarily *acting*. It’s giving you permission to experience the emotion without judgment. Your actions, of course, still require wisdom and choice.
Question: What about negative emotions like anger or jealousy?
Answer: Especially those. Those are the ones we’re most likely to apologize for. But they’re signals. Anger can signal a boundary has been crossed. Jealousy can point to a deep desire. Don’t apologize for the signal; just learn to interpret it.
Question: Is this from a specific part of the book?
Answer: It’s a piece of the internal dialogue and wisdom she gathers throughout her journey, rather than a line spoken in a specific scene. It encapsulates the theme of the entire “Eat” section in Italy, where she learns to embrace pleasure and sensation again.
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