Leaders must either invest a reasonable amount of time… or face squandering far more on unproductive behavior. It’s a powerful truth about the real cost of ignoring team emotions.
Share Image Quote:The core message is simple: proactively listening to your team’s emotional state isn’t a soft skill, it’s a hard-nosed efficiency strategy. You pay now, or you pay a lot more later.
Let me break this down based on what I’ve seen in the wild. That “reasonable amount of time” Brown talks about? It’s the 10-minute check-in, the one-on-one where you actually listen for what’s not being said, the quick huddle to address a rumor. It feels small. Manageable.
The “unreasonable amount of time” is the absolute killer. It’s the three days you spend mediating a conflict that started with a single misunderstood Slack message. It’s the weeks of missed deadlines because morale is in the gutter and no one is giving their best effort. It’s the endless, exhausting cycle of putting out fires that never should have started in the first place. You’re not leading anymore; you’re just a full-time referee for a game nobody wants to play.
It fundamentally reframes empathy. It’s not about being nice. It’s about being effective.
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This is straight from Brené Brown’s 2018 book, Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. It’s a cornerstone of her research on courageous leadership. You sometimes see the sentiment echoed elsewhere, but this specific, beautifully sharp phrasing is all hers.
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| Author | Brene Brown (257) |
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| Source/Book Name | Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. (29) |
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Dr Brene Brown is the author of books such as Daring Greatly and The Power of Vulnerability. The TED talk and Netflix production based on her research reached out to millions of audience. She researches effects of courage and vulnerability in shaping people's work and relationships. She leads the Brené Brown Education and Research Group and provides evidence-based insights into practical tools to help people train themselves
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| Quotation | Leaders must either invest a reasonable amount of time attending to fears and feelings, or squander an unreasonable amount of time trying to manage ineffective and unproductive behavior |
| Book Details | Publication Year/Date: 2018; ISBN/Unique Identifier: 9780399592522; Last Edition: Random House 2018; Number of Pages: 320 |
| Where is it? | Part I: Rumbling with Vulnerability, Approximate page from 2018 edition: 29 |
In the book, this isn’t just a passing thought. It’s part of a larger argument about “armored leadership” versus “daring leadership.” The armored leader avoids emotions and sees them as a weakness, which ironically creates the very chaos and disengagement they’re trying to prevent. This quote is the practical, bottom-line consequence of that choice.
So how do you actually use this? It’s a lens for decision-making.
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Question: Doesn’t this just mean coddling employees?
Answer: Not at all. It’s the opposite of coddling. It’s about creating a psychologically safe environment where hard truths can be spoken, accountability is possible, and real work can get done. Coddling avoids conflict; this approach tackles it constructively before it escalates.
Question: What if I just don’t have the time for all these “feelings” conversations?
Answer: That’s the whole point of the quote. You’re already spending the time—you’re just spending it on the back end, dealing with the fallout. It’s like saying you don’t have time to get an oil change, but you have plenty of time for a new engine when the old one seizes up.
Question: How do you measure the ROI on investing in this way?
Answer: You measure it in the negative. Track the metrics that improve when you *stop* wasting time: reduced project delays, lower staff turnover, fewer escalation meetings, less time spent on re-work. The ROI is in the problems you never have to deal with.
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