Modern society has perfected the art of making people feel unnecessary. It’s a gut punch of a quote that explains so much of the modern malaise we see around us.
Share Image Quote:At its core, this quote means that the very structure of our modern, industrialized world systematically strips away our sense of being essential, valued contributors to a community.
You know, I’ve thought about this a lot. It’s not about some grand conspiracy. It’s about the slow, quiet erosion of our roles. Think about it. In a traditional tribe, your skills—hunting, building, healing, storytelling—were directly tied to the group’s survival. You were needed. Now? We’re cogs in a massive, impersonal machine. You can do your job perfectly, but if you leave, the company just hires someone else. There’s no visceral feedback that you as an individual are crucial. We’ve outsourced so much—from growing food to raising our kids in communal settings—that we’ve lost the daily, tangible proof of our own necessity. And that creates a deep, psychic wound. It’s a feeling of profound disconnection.
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| Original Language | English (3668) |
| Category | Wisdom (385) |
| Topics | modernity (6), purpose (186), society (20) |
| Literary Style | analytical (121), plain (102) |
| Emotion / Mood | critical (18), somber (55) |
| Overall Quote Score | 77 (179) |
This is straight from Sebastian Junger’s 2016 book, Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging. It’s a work of non-fiction that came out of his experiences as a war correspondent. You sometimes see this sentiment echoed elsewhere, but this is the original, powerful phrasing from Junger.
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| Author | Sebastian Junger (60) |
| Source Type | Book (4032) |
| Source/Book Name | Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging (60) |
| Origin Timeperiod | 21st Century (1892) |
| Original Language | English (3668) |
| Authenticity | Verified (4032) |
Sebastian Junger is born in Belmont, United States on 1962. He studied cultural anthropology at Wesleyan University and built his career in journalism. He is the one of the leading contributor and editor at Vanity Fair. Along with Tim Hetherington, he codirected Restrepo(2010 American documentary), which went on to win Sundance’s Grand Jury Prize and an Academy Award nomination. The Sebastian Junger book list includes The Perfect Storm, Tribe, A Death in Belmont, Freedom, War, and In My Time of Dying, each marked by distinct writing style
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| Quotation | Modern society has perfected the art of making people feel unnecessary |
| Book Details | Publication Year: 2016; ISBN: 978-1-4555-6638-6; Last edition: 2017; Number of pages: 192. |
| Where is it? | Chapter 2: War Makes You an Animal, Approximate page 46 from 2017 edition |
Junger was looking at a paradox: why do some soldiers have a harder time coming home to a safe, comfortable society than they did in a dangerous war zone? His argument is that in a platoon, in a tribe, you have a clear, irreplaceable purpose. You look out for each other. Modern society, for all its safety and abundance, often fails to provide that same profound sense of belonging and mutual dependency.
This isn’t just an academic idea. You can use it to reframe so many conversations. For instance, when talking to a friend who’s feeling burned out and pointless at their corporate job. Or when discussing the mental health crisis with a colleague—it points to a root cause deeper than just chemical imbalance. It’s also powerful for leaders and managers trying to build a stronger company culture. You have to ask: How am I making my team feel necessary? Truly, genuinely needed?
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| Theme | Meaning (164) |
| Audiences | psychologists (197), sociologists (21), students (3111), writers (363) |
| Usage Context/Scenario | public lectures (3), social commentary (13), teaching sociology (1), writing op-eds (1) |
Question: Is Junger saying we should go back to a tribal society?
Answer: Not at all. He’s not advocating for a literal return, but rather highlighting what we’ve lost so we can find ways to reintegrate those elements—deep community, mutual aid, a clear sense of purpose—into our modern lives.
Question: Does this mean modern society is bad?
Answer: It’s more about the trade-offs. We’ve gained incredible material comfort and individual freedom, but we’ve often sacrificed the deep, psychological security that comes from being an indispensable part of a small, tightly-knit group.
Question: How can I combat this feeling in my own life?
Answer: It’s about seeking out or creating your own “tribes.” Find communities where your specific presence matters—a sports team, a volunteer group, a mastermind group, a close-knit neighborhood. Places where if you didn’t show up, people would genuinely notice and be affected.
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