When you meet someone, imagine they already like you. It’s a simple but profound shift that changes everything. Your body language becomes warmer, more open, and more confident without you even trying. It’s the ultimate social hack.
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Meaning
The core idea is that your internal belief about how someone perceives you directly dictates your external, non-verbal communication. Assume acceptance, and you’ll project acceptance.
Explanation
Here’s the thing I’ve seen proven true again and again: your mind and body are not separate. When you walk into a room thinking, “I hope they like me,” your body betrays you. You might cross your arms, avoid eye contact, or offer a weak handshake. It screams insecurity. But when you operate from the assumption that you’re already liked? That’s the magic. Your shoulders relax. You make genuine eye contact. You lean in. You smile more freely. You’re not *performing* confidence; you’re *experiencing* it because your internal narrative has shifted. The other person then picks up on these warm, confident signals and is far more likely to actually like you. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Quote Summary
| Context | Attributes |
|---|---|
| Original Language | English (3668) |
| Category | Personal Development (697) |
| Topics | body language (10), confidence (100), psychology (15) |
| Literary Style | practical (126) |
| Emotion / Mood | optimistic (116), positive (57), uplifting (157) |
| Overall Quote Score | 82 (297) |
Origin & Factcheck
This specific phrasing comes from Leil Lowndes’s 1999 book, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships, published in the United States. It’s often misattributed to other communication gurus or even to Dale Carnegie, but the credit rightly belongs to Lowndes and her practical, psychology-based approach.
Attribution Summary
| Context | Attributes |
|---|---|
| Author | Leil Lowndes (235) |
| Source Type | Book (4032) |
| Source/Book Name | How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships (185) |
| Origin Timeperiod | Contemporary (1615) |
| Original Language | English (3668) |
| Authenticity | Verified (4032) |
Author Bio
Leil Lowndes writes about striking conversations with unknown people and how to put others at ease and maintain relationships. Her techniques are straightforward and practically usable that readers can apply immediately in their workplace, and everyday life. Her book list includes How to Talk to Anyone and Goodbye to Shy which have reached international audiences.
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Where is this quotation located?
| Quotation | When you meet someone, imagine they already like you. Your body language will follow |
| Book Details | Publication Year: 1999; ISBN: 978-0-07-141858-4; Last edition: 2018; Number of pages: 368. |
| Where is it? | Chapter 6: The Big-Baby Pivot, Approximate page 39 from 2018 edition |