Your body language tells your confidence level before you speak… it’s a truth I’ve seen play out in countless boardrooms and coffee meetings. This isn’t just theory; it’s the silent handshake that happens before you even say a word. Mastering this non-verbal conversation is often the key that unlocks real influence.
Share Image Quote:Your posture, your eye contact, the way you hold your hands—they all broadcast a message about your self-assurance, or lack thereof, long before your voice is ever heard.
Here’s the thing most people get wrong. They think communication starts with their opening line. It doesn’t. It starts the moment you walk into a room. People are hardwired to assess threat and status visually. So when you walk in with slumped shoulders or a hesitant gait, you’re silently telling everyone you’re not entirely sure you belong. Conversely, an open posture and a calm, steady presence? That screams capability. It’s a pre-emptive strike of credibility. Your body is constantly whispering, and most people are listening, whether they realize it or not.
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This gem comes straight from Leil Lowndes’s 1999 book, How to Talk to Anyone, published in the United States. You sometimes see similar sentiments floating around, attributed vaguely to “body language experts,” but this specific, powerful phrasing is all Lowndes. She was really ahead of the curve on this stuff.
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| Source/Book Name | How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships (185) |
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Leil Lowndes writes about striking conversations with unknown people and how to put others at ease and maintain relationships. Her techniques are straightforward and practically usable that readers can apply immediately in their workplace, and everyday life. Her book list includes How to Talk to Anyone and Goodbye to Shy which have reached international audiences.
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| Quotation | Your body language tells your confidence level before you speak |
| Book Details | Publication Year: 1999; ISBN: 978-0-07-141858-4; Last edition: 2018; Number of pages: 368. |
| Where is it? | Chapter 50: The Silent Introduction, Approximate page 205 from 2018 edition |
In her book, this isn’t an isolated tip. It’s the foundational principle for her “92 little tricks.” Lowndes frames body language as the critical, non-negotiable first step in building rapport and creating successful relationships, both professionally and personally. It’s the setup for everything else.
Let me give you a couple of scenarios where this is pure gold. First, for job seekers. Before you even answer that first interview question, your confident walk to the chair and firm handshake have already scored you points. Second, for team leaders presenting to stakeholders. Walking to the front of the room with purpose and standing tall instantly commands more respect than any slick slide deck can. And finally, for anyone networking. That moment you approach a new group with a smile and open stance? You’ve already made a connection before you’ve said your name.
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Question: Can I fake confident body language if I’m nervous?
Answer: Absolutely. And here’s the secret—”faking it” actually starts to rewire your brain. Holding a power pose for two minutes can chemically boost your confidence. It’s a feedback loop. Your body tells your mind you’re safe and in control.
Question: What’s the single most important confident body language cue?
Answer: It’s a tie between your posture and your eye contact. Standing tall literally takes up more space, signaling authority, while steady (not staring) eye contact builds immediate trust and connection.
Question: Does this mean what I say doesn’t matter?
Answer: Not at all. It means your words are the second act. If your body language screams insecurity, people will discount your brilliant words. If your body language projects confidence, they’ll be primed to listen and believe what you say next.
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